During this Christmas Holiday season, young single adults may begin feeling that loneliness creeping its ugly head. While married couples get together with their loved ones and hug and kiss by a cozy fireplace sipping hot chocolate with marshmallows, listening to Chestnuts Roasting On An Open Fire, many singles are sitting alone and being sexually tempted to cross the red line.
In the same manner that it sounds strange to be a vegetarian and to eat bacon, it is just as strange to be called a Christian and to be sexually explicit in a way that doesn’t bring honor to God.
Ephesians 5:3, says, “But among you there must not be even a hint of sexual immorality, or of any kind of impurity, or of greed, because these are improper for God’s holy people.”
Eating bacon or being a vegetarian is not bad, in and of itself. It is the fact that it is inconsistent with what you portray yourself to be. You can claim to be a follower of Christ, sing Christmas carols, go to church, pray, light a candle and even read your Bible, but if your life is inconsistent with your profession, then there is something wrong.
Paul made it clear that “There must not be even a hint of sexual immorality”. Did you get that? Not even a hint! Not even any kind of impurity, or greed. While the command deals more than just sexually purity, I will only deal with the first section.
Instead of drawing a red line, in a proverbial sense, and trying to see how close you can get without crossing it, try running away from that red line as far away as possible so that you don’t even see it. You wouldn’t want your kids to be playing close to the edge of the Grand Canyon. You would feel safer if they played several yards away from the edge, just in case they slip and fall.
While the culture is good at blending the truth with falsehood, we must make every attempt to uphold the truth of God’s word and command.
Here are 3 simple steps to take to stay sexually pure:
- Spend very little to no alone time with the opposite sex. Instead spend more time alone praying to your heavenly father. Proverbs 6:27 says, “Can a man scoop fire into his lap without his clothes being burned?” The closer you bring fire to your body, the more likely you are to be burned. The closer you are and the more time you spend with the opposite sex alone, the more likely you are to fall into temptation and sin. Spending alone time with a person of the opposite sex is like playing at the edge of Grand Canyon. You may not slip and fall immediately, but the consequence is certain. Spend more time alone on your knees and God will take care of your needs. He knows what you need better than yourself. He cares for you and knows the perfect timing for everything.
- Have a closed mind. Let your thinking be renewed by the power of the Holy Spirit. First Peter 1;13 says, “Therefore, prepare your minds for action, keep sober in spirit…” The King James says, “Gird up the loins of your mind…” To better understand this, we have to go back in history and understand what Peter meant when he said gird up the loins of your mind. People back then wore loose garments such as long robes. And if you had to hurry somewhere, it would be very easy to trip up on your clothes. Therefore, to avoid tripping, you would have to gird up or tie your robe in such a way that would allow you to move freely without reticence. Peter is drawing a well-known analogy from his day to make a practical spiritual point. Keep your mind sober and tied tightly so that it doesn’t tangle you up with anything that comes in it. You read that right, have a closed mind. This goes against the grain of today’s culture to have an “open mind”. That is what Satan wants us to believe because if our minds are open, he can come in without a fight. You would not leave the front door to your home open, so why would you leave the door to your mind open to be influenced and bombarded by everything it sees and thinks about? Be careful what T.V. shows, movies, genre of music, friends, conversations, and books you read. Guard your mind at all times because we are in a spiritual warfare.
- Pursue a close and zealous relationship with God. Without maintaining a strong relationship with the Lord Jesus Christ, purity is frankly unattainable. When you are accountable to God and know that God is watching your every move and knows every thought, it will motivate you to please Him more. It also boils down to trust. You may not be in a marital relationship right now, but you can trust God that He knows the best for your life better than you or anyone else. We can rest on His word that, “All things work together for good, to those who love God and who are called according to His purpose” (Romans 8:28). We must first seek His kingdom and its righteousness and everything else will be added to us. This is a promise that Jesus gave.
I pray that this Holiday season will not find you in temptation, but rather fully equipped to battle every enticement that may come your way. Put these three practical things to use in your life today and pursue a life of sexual purity where there is not even a hint of impurity.